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My Son Has Bad Timing

The little guy couldn’t have had worse timing.

First of all the nurse practitioner backing me up was on vacation for an entire week. This limited the amount of help patients would get while I was gone.

Second, we weren’t ready for him yet. He was still breech and we were doing everything we could to spin the baby. My wife stood on her head. We did a variety of exercises from the website spinningbabies.com. We did myofascial massage and chiropracter. We even did a weird acupuncture move involving burning mugwort near the pinky toe.

Finally, we decided on doing an external cephalic version – a maneuver where the obstetrician manually turns the baby. We scheduled it to be done the very day he would be full term at 37 weeks on November 1st. Well guess when the little booger would decide to come?

Thirdly, our doctor, Kevin Schultz, who did a great job walking us through the first 9 months of the pregnancy works one day every 2 weeks in Kellogg 90 miles away. Well, when do you think the baby decided to spontaneously break my wife’s water bag? When my wife came to me and said she couldn’t control her pee, I knew it wasn’t pee.

Fourthly, because he came just 12 hours shy of being a full term baby, he was technically a preemie. This meant that he was subjected to pinpricks on his heel every 3 hours to check blood sugar. He also had to have additional newborn screens. Prior to discharge he had to do a car seat challenge – a test involving hooking electrodes to his body and placing him in his car seat for 2 hours while in the NICU. He was even seen by a developmental specialist and a speech therapist.

That’s right. Our newborn had to be seen by a speech therapist.

It’s Not All Bad Timing

However, some incredible things unfolded on my son’s birthday. My close friend Nathan and I were talking on the phone earlier this year. He had something personal to share. Nathan was going to be Dad. I was dumbfounded. Not only was I happy for him, but my wife was pregnant, too. Our due dates were about 3 weeks apart.

I texted Nathan the morning I found out I was going to have a baby. He texted back immediately. His wife was going into labor, too. In fact, our first-borns came into the world 77 minutes apart.

That’s not the only incredible thing. October 31, 2017 marked the dawn of the Prostestant Reformation 500 years ago. An unknown German monk nailed 95 criticisms on the church door of Wittenberg which would later lay the foundation for religious liberty and liberty of consciousness and ultimately democracy and scientific reasoning. Later, in the mid 20th century, an African American man named Michael King would study the life of Martin Luther. He was so inspired by the life of this man that he would change his name to Martin Luther King Jr. and become one of America’s greatest civil rights leaders.

As I reflected on these events I’ve learned one important lesson. Whatever plans I have for my son, God has better plans.

I don’t know why he had to do a C-section despite all the fasting and prayers and effort. But I do take comfort in the verse Psalm 84:11, “No good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly.” Perhaps he was spared from harm that would have occurred. Perhaps, there’s something Melanie and I need to learn. Whatever the case, I don’t know what the future holds, but I know who holds the future. And that future is a good one.

As a result of these events we changed course with our son. We changed his name from Joshua Andrew Roquiz to Joshua Luther Roquiz.

Why?

Because whatever plans I have for my son, God has better plans.

 

 

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13 Comments

  • Reply Ginnie November 7, 2017 at 2:26 pm

    Enjoying your blog, Andrew. Congratulations on your baby boy! Glad he and Melanie made it safely through the birthing process. I like that you named him Luther. I think that’s such a great way to commemorate his birth and father of the Reformation. God bless you and your family, my friend.

    • Reply Andrew Roquiz November 7, 2017 at 10:48 pm

      Thanks friend. If you ever want to explore a beautiful place come up and visit. You can meet little Joshua Luther 🙂

  • Reply John and Jan Palsgrove November 7, 2017 at 7:17 pm

    I had the honor and pleasure of holding your precious son! Joshua is so fortunate to have you and Melanie for parents. Many blessings to you and Melanie and your whole family.

    • Reply Andrew Roquiz November 7, 2017 at 10:48 pm

      So glad to hear that. We enjoy your company, especially Melanie.

  • Reply Ruthie November 7, 2017 at 9:14 pm

    Oh Andrew he is so beautiful! Look how alert he is. God definately has Big plans for Joshua, and he looks ready for them.
    So happy for all of you.

    • Reply Andrew Roquiz November 7, 2017 at 10:50 pm

      Thanks, Ruthie. He didn’t start out looking so good…but he started looking better by the day. 😀

  • Reply Eldine November 7, 2017 at 9:15 pm

    Enjoy following your blog Andrew. Congrats to you and Melanie! Parenthood is such a blessing. The many sleepless nights make the cuddles and milestones even more precious. I like the choice of name. Very fitting.

    • Reply Andrew Roquiz November 7, 2017 at 10:53 pm

      Thanks friend. And you both share the same Birthday! So maybe you’re a bit biased 😛 But I’m glad you like the name, too 🙂

  • Reply Susan Stilwell November 7, 2017 at 10:48 pm

    Awesome post! Chuck and I enjoyed it very much! And I’m so happy that Joshua Luther Roquiz made his presence known in God’s timing. He’s one very special baby (Besides being handsome) and you are special parents and we’re praying for you all!

  • Reply Andrew Roquiz November 7, 2017 at 10:53 pm

    Thank you Susan. We appreciate the prayers and support you give us.

  • Reply Virginia Chamberlain November 8, 2017 at 12:13 am

    Congratulations on your beautiful son Joshua Luther! I only know you from seeing you both at a distance when visiting Hayden SDA church a few weeks back and you and your impending expected birth was mentioned briefly at some point during the service and I think special prayer was offered as I recall? And I prayed for you when I heard about the breech position. Anyway, I enjoyed reading your blog tonight that Susan posted and figured out who the adorable baby was and made the connection. So happy things turned out well and Joshua arrived in his own time with God’s watchful care over you all. Hope to meet you one day soon…

  • Reply Judy Bedell November 8, 2017 at 6:24 am

    Andrew, thank you for sharing your stories and thoughts…especially will I be eager to hear upcoming baby boy stories. With the faith in God both you and Melanie hsve, He will surely use you on a mighty way to bless others every day. I’m SO thrilled for you in your new daddy journey! Please keep the pictures and updates coming. I love seeing them!

  • Reply Kandi November 9, 2017 at 6:29 pm

    What a beautiful little one God has given you to treasure & guide through all his years. Your story of his birth was touching. You both will be great parents and glad all ended up well. Healthy, alert & loving. Can’t wait to see him.

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